One of the worse things we can do to ourselves is continue to beat ourselves up over something in our past. It’s already happened, maybe we didn’t handle it well, or we allowed someone to take advantage of us, whatever the case may be, you continue to think about it and kick yourself for not handling it better.

I’ve done this too. We all have. I relive it over and over in my mind, trying to see something I didn’t catch before, or relive it where I spoke up and said what I should have said, or handled what happened better. By doing this, I continue to beat myself up, and it continues to make me feel bad about myself.

The reason why we go through things is to learn from them and to grow. It’s not to continue this pattern, and certainly not to continue to abuse ourselves. It’s simply to grow our lives and to learn. Basic as it may seem, it’s not easy to let things go. We as human like to hold on to things!

This only way I can move on is to forgive.

I am a huge supporter of meditation! It centers my mind – body – soul and in doing that, I can’t have one of these off balance because I can’t forgive. I feel out of alignment. I really do. And trust me, forgiveness doesn’t happen overnight, I have to say “I forgive you” many, many times in meditation for as long as it takes to truly feel forgiveness in my heart. You will know when you are at peace and you have truly forgiven them. It doesn’t mean it’s okay and invite them back in your life – it means you’ve forgiven them from a far and allowed yourself the gift of healing and moving on.

I let it go! I stop beating myself up for whatever happened and I make a note of what I learned from it. It is toxic to your whole well-being to hold on to it and beat yourself up mentally. Let go! Find a way to move on that helps you. I’m sharing what helps me, but there maybe another way for you.

Love yourself enough to forgive.

Love and Light,

Deanna